Choosing Forgiveness (S2E6)
When sayings like “forgive and forget" are commonplace, being quick to forgive someone without ever really tending to your own hurt feelings, or letting someone back into your life despite your better judgment. For these reasons (and more), forgiveness can be a challenging and commonly misunderstood quality. Forgiveness doesn’t condone the past, doesn’t mean you need to stay connected to anyone who has caused you pain, nor is weak or naive. It takes time and is really about not leaving anyone out of your heart, including yourself, for any hurt that may have been caused.
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Transcript
Begin in a position that is an expression of kindness. If it feels appropriate, place your hands to your heart and tune in to your body.
Bring to mind anyone you may have harmed. Hold them lightly in your awareness, and silently say “For any way that I have caused you harm, knowingly or unknowingly, in thought, word or deed, I ask for your forgiveness.”
Pause for a few moments, letting these words land in your body and heart. In much the same way, bring to mind anyone who might have hurt or harmed you. Silently say “For any way that you have caused me harm, knowingly or unknowingly, in thought, word or deed, may I forgive you,”, leaving a long pause after reciting the phrase.
Next, for yourself, silently say “For any way that I have caused harm to myself, through judgment, action, self-blame, indifference, knowingly or unknowingly, in thought, word or deed, may I forgive myself. And if I cannot do so in this moment, may I be able to forgive myself in the future.”
Let any feelings arise with this phrase, holding yourself in kindness.
